This coming Monday is Memorial Day. And I have fond memories of spending this holiday weekend back in Michigan enjoying (finally) warming weather and backyard barbecues. Char-grilled hot dogs, hand-pressed hamburgers, and potato salad. What could be better, right?
Well, I’ll get to relive those memories.
I’ll be making the trip back to Michigan a bit earlier than planned, and will leave for the 1,282-mile door-to-door journey this coming Saturday afternoon. I’ll arrive Sunday, mid-morning, and after some light unpacking and a hearty nap, I’ll be ready to start a new lifestyle in Michigan. And what better time than an early summer holiday?
Unfortunately, however, this earlier trip wasn’t my idea.
Rather, these changes have been incredibly difficult on my current partner and I. And it’s been this really unique situation where we talked about these impending changes quite a while ago. I’ve been with my girlfriend for almost five years now, and as soon as I knew my feelings about moving back were real, I sat down and told her. As such, we went through a roller coaster of emotions, and we’re both very upset about what amounts to us going our separate ways. While we plan on remaining friends no matter what, there’s a good chance this move will result in our permanent separation.
Between the time we initially talked about all of this and now, we’ve gone from realizing and absorbing the change to getting comfortable with one another again as we go through regular routines like grocery shopping together, eating together, and doing our day-to-day activities together. Because of this, there hasn’t been any time to move on or deal with our loss of one another. And when she does try to realize that I’m leaving and move on, our situation where I’m still here and we’re living together makes it impossible.
As such, she asked me if I could move to Michigan earlier than originally planned and I obliged. I don’t want to hurt her any more than I already have, and this change has been incredibly hard on her. I feel terrible about it, but at the same time I can’t ignore the fact that I want to be closer to family. Unfortunately, we reach an impasse whenever I try to reconcile my desire to live closer to family while still maintaining our relationship together. At this point, there’s either staying here in Florida and we stay together, or I move back home and spend time with family, but I do so without her. We’ve gone through various scenarios where the choices aren’t mutually exclusive, like me living there six months per year and here the other six. But any ideas we come up with are really just not realistic, comfortable, or fair to the parties involved over the long haul. She might be interested in moving up there at some point in the future, but it’s just not the time for her right now. Or, of course, I could freak out when winter hits and come crawling back to Florida. Never say never.
As incredibly difficult as this is, I’ll be packing what little personal possessions I own in my little Toyota on Saturday morning and then making the drive. It’s about 18 hours total, and I’ll likely make the drive all in one shot. Of course, we’ll see how my energy levels do, and if I get tired I’ll find a rest stop, park, and take a nap as I recline my driver’s seat back a little. No hotel stays for this frugalist!
I’ll be turning in the cable modem early Friday afternoon, so between that time and Sunday afternoon when I’m settled in back home I’ll be unavailable. As soon as I have an opportunity to do so I’ll update everyone on the situation, and I really look forward to resuming the blog from the Arctic North!
Meanwhile, I hope you all have a wonderful holiday weekend. I’ll see you all on the other side in a couple days!
Thank you all for the incredible support. This is a tough, but exciting time for me, and the encouragement from you readers means the world to me!
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